Des Moines, IA

Learning Right From Wrong

Before bed, do you brush your teeth or just go to the sink and turn on the water while pretending to brush them? When eating dinner, do you eat your vegetables or feed them to the dog when no one is looking? How do you know what the right behaviors are?

In Martial Arts we talk a lot about integrity. Being honest and fair are learned behaviors. As parents, it's our responsibility to instill those positive ideals in our children.
 

5 Steps to Teaching Integrity

  • Can your kids describe what integrity means? Simply put, it is being honest and doing the right thing all the time, even when no one is around to see it.
  • Establish your expectations, and stick to them. Do your children know what is expected of them at different times? Kids appreciate visual cues, so maybe having a chore chart or a bedtime routine chart will help set those expectations.
  • Dishonesty has consequences, and it's important to begin teaching children that at a young age. There is more to consequences than sitting in time out or losing privileges. Show your children that dishonesty leads to mistrust from those around them.
  • Teach kids to say what they mean, and mean what they say, especially when angry. This one can be difficult, even for adults. When faced with a highly emotional situation, like an argument, teach kids to take a time out from the situation so they do not say something they will later regret.
  • Being honest has benefits and rewards, you may have to point them out to kids. Sometimes those rewards are tangible, such as getting a red stripe on their Taekwondo belt for displaying good behaviors. Other times the benefits are intangible, such as the positive feelings we get when we make good choices.
 
Farrells-MA_Kicker
TKD Tip:
Do you have multiple children? If so, make sure that each child is held accountable to the same rules. Their responsibilities may be different based on age, but the consequences and way in which you reward and discipline should be the same.


Parent/Child Activity:
Role playing is a great way to help kids visualize and experience different scenarios. Help teach them about integrity by creating different situations, both good and bad, and asking them to help identify if they are "good" or "bad" behaviors and what they would do in those situations.

Location Info

Beaverdale School         Waukee School
2706 Beaver Ave.            215 N. Warrior Lane
Des Moines, IA 50310       Waukee, IA 50263
515-255-0095                  515-978-3000